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I was married for 16 yrs and got 3 girls. Ours is a middle-class family. Mine was a love marriage
Initially, everything was very well. He took good care of me and family but for the past 6 yrs there’s a lot of change in his attitude and behavior.
He yelled at me and kids in front of everyone, treating us very badly.
Last month, he brought one lady home and told us that he’s going to marry her.
My girls and parents launched a police complaint and with the help of a police officer that marriage was stopped.
He did not want to divorce but want to lead a new life with that lady. I told him that I will not agree for that.
After this he stopped coming home and eating from home. He will come as and when he wished but will not eat anything.
He gives money for the home expenses. I want to lead a happy married life with him. I want him to be genuine and truthful to our family.
Recently, he started hatred towards me. Pls help me to change this and lead me a happy life.
Take the flower remedies CHICORY, HOLLY, and ASPEN.
Put each 5 pills in a glass of water and have small sips from that water, every one or two hours, from morning to evening.
In the night, take the flower remedies WHITE CHESTNUT and WALNUT before going to sleep, 5 pills each.
Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”
A CHICORY person turns easily into HOLLY. Husband is the shadow-self of wife and hence, and therefore, his remedies are given to her.
Every day, she has to lead her life with the constant fear of what will happen, for which ASPEN will help.
To come out of persistent, constant worry: WHITE CHESTNUT and WALNUT
I follow my father’s footsteps: https://healbymindbodymessages.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/i-follow-my-father%E2%80%99s-footsteps/
Why a person is not married: https://healyourpastlife.wordpress.com/2013/01/16/why-a-person-is-not-married/
I am bit confused about predictions.
Your reply shows me the correct path – which says that one must not take predictions for granted but try to work on them to change our destiny.
Stop not trying.
When you think that “I cannot have this” or “I cannot have that” then you stagnate. Stagnation makes one rot.
Movement is the DIVINE ORDER. What is movement for us human beings?
Doing. Doing is Karma. Karmic is the result of Karma.
When you fully concentrate on the work on hand, not eyeing on the result, that productivity is a joy to experience. That joy only is Divine.
Don’t eye on what is going to happen. Our duty is to do. The result is the reward.
If your mind is fully on what you do, instead of the result, every result (the effect of karma or doing) is a REWARD!!
My husband has changed his behavior: https://healbyswitchword.wordpress.com/2012/06/20/my-husband-has-changed-his-behavior/
Affected by Vastu Doshas: https://finddivinehome.wordpress.com/2013/10/04/affected-by-vastu-doshas/
If he shows anger on me, according to him, I should behave like a matured wife. I should behave same as in normal condition, in a polite way.
He loves me through my politeness. These are his expectations.
Can I change myself through this way, because if he becomes angry I can’t handle him politely?
At that time, I feel bad why he should get angry on me. And I don’t like his bad behavior either.
However, if by changing my behavior, my relationship takes a good way, then I am ready to become polite.
When he gets angry, be in the SAFE and SECURE MUDRA and chant “CHERRY PLUM, IMPATIENS”.
Our endurance and patience only can help us.
Patience is the key: http://joboneoone.wordpress.com/2013/11/26/patience-is-the-key/
Your spouse is possessive: http://praisedivinelife.wordpress.com/2014/01/28/your-spouse-is-possessive/
Patient: My wife loves me a lot. She is a very considerate person. At the same time, when it comes to my way of doing, she is highly intolerant. Surprisingly, she tolerates others’ mistakes to a greater extent – this includes my parent’s actions too.
One part of her is tolerant, while the other part of her is intolerant – especially to you. It shows, somehow you trigger the other – unwanted part in her.
Do you have a similar behavior in yourself?
Patient: Yeah! In general, I always tend to correct the way of others and not just one person. I believe everything has to be done correctly, with the right people, and at the right time.
I will teach you a simple method here.
Affirm as many times as possible:
“I RELEASE the PART of ME that is criticized by me”.
“I OPEN ALIGN WITH the PART of ME that evokes her tolerance to PRAISE me”.
You can write them too.
The letters in UPPER CASE is fixed. The rest of the statement, you can fill with whatever you want. This way, you are releasing the behavior you don’t want and activating the behavior you want in others.
Raji: I am married for 8 years. I have a daughter who is 7yrs old. When I became pregnant, I got separated from my husband.
Naran: Are you still separated?
Raji: No. We are living together for the last one year.
Naran: What is your problem since you had been together?
Raji: My husband is an alcoholic. Once in 3 or 4 days, he gets drunk as well as daily consuming Pan Parag (a tobacco product).
Naran: Since how long he has been an alcoholic?
Raji: According to my in laws he started drinking from his graduation days.
Naran: Explain his behavior after he gets drunk?
Raji: He will get angry at me and my daughter; will shout.
Naran: What does he shout about?
Raji: He will say, “Nobody respects me. There is no respect for me even in my own house. My daughter does not respect me. My friends, my employees, and my parents don’t respect me either. I will teach all of them a lesson”.
After the outburst, he will start weeping.
To be respected is the key word for ROCK WATER.
He is weeping. By losing control of himself, he weeps. Therefore, add CHERRY PLUM.
Rock Water will ultimately turn into either CHESTNUT BUD or VINE.
Naran: How is his behavior when he is not under the influence of alcohol?
Raji: His behavior is quite normal only. He shows his love for his daughter. In fact he sincerely made efforts for our reunion.
(Naran questioned further about her husband’s profession)
Naran: What is he doing?
Raji: He is running a Screen Printing unit. But it is not doing well.
Naran: How does he manage to pay his workers and take care of the family then?
Raji: He is honest in paying out the dues. Somehow, he will manage to pay the workers first, and then gives me money once a week.
Honesty – ROCK WATER
When one tries to be honest, in spite of adverse circumstances, self-control is employed to the maximum in one area.
He is so self-controlled in the area of finance that he loses self-control in some other area. Thus when he drinks, he loses his control and starts weeping.
Naran: Suppose if he can’t pay his dues, then how does he manage?
Raji: Naran, one more thing, I have forgotten to tell you. Every month before paying the rent, he would abscond.
Raji: He cannot pay the house rent by first of every month. Therefore, he feels ashamed to meet the house owner. So he would not stay in the house during the first week of the month.
Instead, he would stay with his parents for 4 or 5 days, arrange for the money, and will return back home after paying the rent. He has been doing this for a long time. Though, he would never cheat anybody.
Honest and at the same time an escapist. This is the case of a ROCK WATER person turning into CHESTNUT BUD character. On the due date, he would abscond (Chestnut Bud).
Key Words for Rock Water
To be respected: Ego and pride; self control, honesty.
Self controlled, honest person expects self respect. As a principle, he would never cheat.
Here the husband doesn’t get respect. His ego is hurt when he is insulted. He loses his control when he drinks.
One more interesting point is Rock Water father will face a Cherry Plum daughter.
ROCK WATER, CHERRY PLUM, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT (to break the habit)
Put the combination in the common drinking water, so that everybody will get the healing effect.
Feedback after 15 days
Raji: From the second day onwards, he stopped Pan Parag, and after a week he has stopped drinking.
Give the Bach Flower Remedy CHICORY, as greediness is expressed through food. Add it with ROCK WATER and CHERRY PLUM.
WALNUT should be taken separately.
Rock Water is prescribed for thinking, “I want to be strict with myself. I want to be self-disciplined”.
Cherry plum is for temptation and Chicory to come out of self-gratification (compensatory behavior).
Cherry Plum is added as they will feel, “I want to control my craving”.
Rock Water and Cherry plum go together, because if somebody says, “I want to control”, then they will lose their control”.
Walnut is given to form a habit of eating properly.
Think Differently Says the Rabbit: http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2012/09/24/think-differently-says-the-rabbit/
Mantras for Lungs, Digestion and Back Pain: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/10/30/mantras-for-lungs-digestion-and-back-pain/
Addiction to drink: http://reachnaran.com/addiction-to-drink/
Shyla found that her son is not studying irrespective of several complaints from his teachers and after getting bad scores in his exams.
She took a colored Xerox of the Power Life Symbol 2-SLOW-CARE and wrote her son’s name in the blank circle. She carried the paper in her purse.
Now and then, she chanted the switch words, “SLOW CARE”, while looking at the symbol and thinking about her child.
After a few days, one fine morning, he approached her and asked her, what homework he had to do and what subjects he had to study for the day.
She was totally surprised about his change in behavior. He is continuing to be responsible like this for the last one week.
The lower three chakras rule us
We have seven chakras. However, we are acting from the first three chakras, namely BASIC/ROOT CHAKRA, SWADHISTANA CHAKRA and SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA.
“I am seeking myself to maintain myself, seeking pleasure, seeking to possess, stick to confirmed events” would be our ruling behavior as long we live out of these three chakras.
However we should live out of Anahata chakra
Then what I need will never end.
Why my needs are never ending? Because what I get never satisfies me.
ANAHATA CHAKRA (Heart Chakra) is the one that changes these chakras. Only through Anahata chakra we learn to give.
Who will win eventually – all the three lower chakras or one Anahata chakra?
Sadly, success of Anahata chakra is short-lived
Obviously the three chakras will win. But even if Anahata wins how it comes down again? Let us see.
Giving and sharing are the qualities of Anahata. But now and then Solar Plexus calls Anahata, and tells that ‘You are giving liberally. That’s very good’.
The moment it tells like that, ego sets in. When “ego” predominates, giving is denied.
You are not the doer, but the divine is
The quarrel of these four chakras is watched by VISUDHI that is THROAT CHAKRA.
Visudhi means purification. The Visudhi tells the other chakras, you are not the doer, and if you let go the thinking that I am the doer, you will become very good.
When ‘I am not the doer’ thinking comes to you, there will be surrender mentality. All your thoughts will be purified; your love will be refined; then you will accept whatever happens in your life.
Purification of Chakras
Which mantra purifies all these chakras? That is the mantra:
HARE RAMA HARE RAMA
RAMA RAMA HARE HARE
HARE KRISHNA HARE KRISHNA
KRISHNA KRISHNA HARE HARE
Eight times we are chanting HARE, every time you chant the mantra. When you chant HARE, your selfishness will go, and self-centeredness is removed.
When you chant RAMA, arrogance is removed, and the “I” goes off. As long as you are healthy we will not let go the “I”.
“KRU” means adaptability. We can go up and down in life, but wherever we go we have to be happy. For that “KRU” will help.
SHNA means let go of everything daily. Only when you let go you will be adaptable/flexible. If you are flexible means there is no arrogance.
Opening the chakras with mantras: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/opening-the-chakras-with-mantras/
Colours heal chakras: http://colorhealing.wordpress.com/2009/11/08/colours-heals-chakras/
Instructions to use chakra symbols or pictures: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2011/02/10/instructions-to-use-chakra-symbols-or-pictures/
As guided by you in the past few weeks, I am calm and peaceful by myself. Now that the marriage is round the corner (of my niece – husband’s brother’s daughter), I need to attend.
All the past incidents of harassment, sarcastic remarks, aloofness etc. of my husband’s Anni is coming to my mind and I need enough strength to face it all this time.
I want to raise above all this silly behavior of others and come out successfully, to neutralize my karma.
Chant “CHOCOLATE CONCEDE TOGETHER DIVINE”.
Chant “I am sorry. Please forgive me”, as many times as possible.
Your anger and resentment – whether it is right or not – will upset your stomach, which in turn increases your insecurity.
Take the flower remedies AGRIMONY, WILLOW and CHERRY PLUM.
Since yesterday, I am practicing as advised by you. I do not understand, why, often I get this thought flashed in my mind that I need to move away from my husband?
I do not know if it is a natural process. It is a soul-searching experience for me. I need your divine help and guidance.
Soul searching is to happen within. It does not depend on outside person or event.
I attended the marriage and chanted the Switch Words as advised by you.
I am back to Bangalore.
I am trying to find the golden nugget … May be my spiritual awareness is not enough to find one.
As I have disclosed to you before, I have this urgent need to go back to work in UK. I have contacted my ex-colleagues, friends, and contacts and passed on my resume.
Initially, they were very encouraging, told me to help me out with a job.
But as days went by, there is no communication from them regarding my application status.
Also, I have applied many jobs. It is Apply, Apply, but no reply.
I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE FIND JOB COUNT NOW ORDER DONE” and also recently after reading one of your blogs regarding chakra cleansing, I have chanting Bija Mantras (OM LUM…)
In between, I am chanting forgive exercise to my husband too. Please advise, what can be chanted.
Move away with love in the heart and not in resentment
For job: chant “CRYSTAL GORSE WOLF REACH HELP JOB COUNT NOW DONE”
I am writing this mail, rather after a long time. I am following the chants and forgive exercise as advised by you.
There are lots of changes in me. I am able to forgive many things now.
Though, I still remember the events, which had caused me so much anger, hurt and other negative emotions.
After forgive exercise, these emotions have drastically reduced to an intensity of zero!
I am now able to appreciate the switch word “CHOCOLATE” as suggested by you.
The golden nugget in my case is to get re introduced to healing techniques through you.
Thank you very much for your Grace and support you have extended to me.
The top most emotional layer of healing has taken place. As a result, my relationship with my husband has improved.
As regards to finding a job, this is the next layer to be dealt with. I am chanting and many times writing the Switch words.
CRYSTAL has strengthened my intention of job seeking.
I am now more confident and beginning to understand what I want. My previous emotional state of confusion together with mixed feelings is no more. I am more calm and focused.
Our friend – WOLF is bringing me some leads for job searching and I am working on it.