Posts tagged Blaming

Manage a negative-minded spouse


My brother has lost all hope as his wife is not co-operative, negative-minded, and selfish, blaming personally and never satisfied how much you do for her.

Tell some remedy or mantra for my brother so that he can handle the situation. My brother just wants to give divorce to his wife.

It’s really difficult for him to control the situation as she blames him for everything but then when he asks her for divorce, she doesn’t want to give to him.


Ask your brother to take flower remedies CHICORY, CRAB APPLE and CHERRY PLUM, 2 pills of each, one after the other, three times a day. He has to keep himself cool.

Ask him to chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”.


To remain calm and composed: Cherry Plum

To get the problem out of one’s life: Crab Apple.

The wife does not want the husband; at the same time denying to get separated from him: Chicory

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Let us see an example

“My husband is not good. He is irritating too”, says the wife.

She is blaming her husband here.

If she has to handle this situation, then what resource (quality) she needs to handle it?

Does she needs to be courageous, be more loving and caring, or be bold?

When there is a problem, you need to ask yourself, “What one resource will enrich me and will help me to handle this life situation”.

This way you are healing yourself. Instead, if some person is angry and you also get angry, then you are gone.

So what do we need here?

People would say she needs patience and tolerance.

What’s patience?

Patience is the quality or ability to withstand a situation without getting angry or upset.

If that’s the case, then the Bach Flower IMPATIENS is the remedy. Impatiens will create patience inside you.

You need tolerance also. BEECH is the remedy for it.

Beech and Impatiens go together in cultivating tolerance and patience.

Developing a Life Strategy

Quality of patience, without getting upset or angry about the other person, is waiting inside us, waiting for the right opportunity.

We all need it. If I have it, then I will be striking at the right moment. It’s a Life Strategy.

If we have this quality, we will have more consideration and caring for other people. To develop this strategy, take the flower remedy IMPATIENS.

If I cultivate patience and tolerance (Beech and Impatiens), then I will become more considerate.

Consideration means, there is more love and affection for other person. Then we will become accommodative.

To be more caring, after being considerate, HOLLY is the remedy.

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Say Yes For No


Sheela was doing business with a company. They owe her 4.5 lakhs. She made a commitment to her supplier based on that.

But as the customer didn’t give the money, she couldn’t meet her supplier and therefore she was afraid to see him.

“I am afraid” she said, being afraid of the supplier: MIMULUS was given.

After one week she opened up. “All of my problems are due to my inability to say no”. I gave her CENTAURY.

After ten days, she met me again and said that her sister is the root cause of all the problems. Therefore, she took WILLOW for blaming others for her life situation.

She got payment from her customer soon afterwards.

Here we could have analyzed how to handle non-payment of dues owed to you. It will not work here.

Find out what’s the expression of the patient? Treat it. Heal it. Solution will appear automatically.

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Not ready to go for a divorce


I am really tired of waiting to get initiation/news, words from my husband as he is not at all in contact with me or my family for last 2 months. We all tried very much but failed.

I am doing forgiving exercise for husband and my MIL more than 25 days now, but still no result or reply from his end.

Everybody in my family is asking me to take decision and to divorce him and start new life. But I am really not ready to do so.

Sometimes, I wonder why this person marries me, if he really doesn’t have any regards or interest in family life.


Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, PINE, WALNUT” for a month


See events from different angle: BEECH

Stop blaming anybody for what happened: WILLOW

Come out of the thought of “One’s bad karma”: PINE

Black patches on the face

A Case History for Water Violet

Rani became sensitive to the ultraviolet rays of the sun and started developing black patches on her face.

The doctor asked her not to be exposed to the sun. Her movement is restricted because she goes out either in early mornings or after evening hours.

First time when she met me, she was given Walnut (sensitive to atmosphere). She just took it for four times and reported that she could see some improvement on her face.

I wanted to probe in further.

Naran: What would have caused this de-pigmentation?

Rani: I believe that the heavy make-up I was using might have caused the problem

Naran: Do you think there are other reasons too?

Rani:  I was using lot of turmeric on my face. I used to be called as Yellow Beauty. Probably my usage of turmeric also would have caused this.

Naran: When other people, I mean friends and relatives, enquire about your face, what would be your reply?

Rani: Do you think anybody has the guts to ask me?

Naran: Hmmm was there are any?

Rani: Only two have enquired so far.

Naran: What was your reply then?

Rani: This is the latest make-up.

(Saying this, she laughed loudly, which indicated her superiority complex.)

Naran: Why should anybody have guts to talk to you?

Rani: I am a reserved person. If anybody tries to come near me, I will snub them. Few try to come closer to me. However, I will make sure that they don’t get close to me.

Naran: Do you have any close friends?

Rani: None fits my bill. I have some friends. But I am not close to them.

Naran: How do you select your friends?

Rani: Intelligence is very important. If I say something then they should understand it immediately. If I have to repeat what I say, then they are below my standard. He will be out of my list of friends.

Even in my area, nobody is up to my level. All the houses in my locality are built in small plots. My house is the only one which is built on a two-ground plot. (Laughing loudly)

(This above expressions points to Water Violet – Superiority Complex)


WATER VIOLET: She is not allowing anybody to get close to her. Mentally, she keeps the people at a distance. Physically, by developing dark patches on her face, her body helps her to keep others at a distance.

PINE: The reason she gives for the dark patches on the face is that she had used lots of make-up materials. Blaming oneself for the problem indicates Pine.

CRAB APPLE: Make-up is the word she used often. It means that she is covering up the patches. Covering up is the key word of Crab Apple.

WALNUT: For over-sensitivity to Sun rays

The case of the missing baggage


My husband travelled to China for a week officially.

On the way back, his flight was from Shanghai-Bangkok-Mumbai. He reached Mumbai on 22nd May early morning at 1am.

After about an hour realized that his baggage had not arrived. Jet Airways gave him a settling allowance of Rs.4000/- for the night. They told him that they will retrieve the baggage within 24 hrs.

Back home, the whole night was spent restlessly but with the hope that it would be found by the day. On 22nd May at around 9.30am I called Naran.

Told him the scenario and he asked me to chant “WATER VIOLET ROCK WATER GORSE CHESTNUT BUD”.

Only a day before, I mailed to him for our pattern in losing things or money during travel (CHESTNUT BUD).

I kept chanting. The whole of May 22nd there was no proper response from Jet Airways. They said that Sri Lankan Airways missed the transfer between Shanghai and Bangkok. They would coordinate from Mumbai on the same.

On 23rd morning they told us that our baggage had been traced and will reach us by the evening. I decided to continue chanting till the baggage reaches our hand. Naran also told me to do the same.

On 23rd evening, they informed us that Sri Lankan Airways is yet to dispatch the baggage. The same script was maintained by them on every time.

I kept chanting but sometimes I was losing hope, we were getting irritated about the whole episode and a lot of charged emotions were in place at home.

I decided to try to reach the Sri Lankan airways on 27th may and ask them what had happened to the baggage.

At this point Naran asked me to additionally chant, “REACH BAGGAGE” or “FIND BAGGAGE” along with chanting “SCLERANTHUS IMPATIENS” with the other 3 flowers. We excluded CHESTNUT BUD.

They told us very clearly that the baggage had been dispatched on the very next day itself and had reached the Mumbai airport on 23rd May early morning flight and they had a proof of delivery.

They asked my husband to go personally to Jet Airways at the airport and check with them. They also said that Sri Lankan Airways would speak to Jet Airways if required at the Mumbai airport.

I informed Naran of the development and he asked me to chant and take WILLOW when we speak to them. Also to chant REACH BAGGAGE HALF WAY DIVINE.

I did these and my husband went to the airport. The Jet Airways personnel insisted that they did not receive the baggage. Sri Lankan Airways people spoke to them.

Jet Airways realized that they must have received the same. So they told my husband that they will search further and will get back to him as soon as possible.

I continued chanting through the night as well. The next day morning 28th May, much to our surprise our baggage got delivered at home at 7am itself and the baggage tag said it was delivered Mumbai airport 23rd May.

We lost an iPod and a watch from inside the pouches of the suitcase. Jet Airways has promised to retrieve them too!!!!

My husband does not believe in flowers or any alternate healing methods.

Thank you Naran! Thank you flowers….!!! I prostrate before the magical powers of the Flowers!!!!!


Reach and Find are switch words. Why REACH baggage and FIND baggage?

Find baggage for the self (the loser): he wants to get the baggage somehow or other.

Reach baggage for the other (finder): The airport people totally forgot that they have received the baggage. To help them retrieve from memory, Reach is chanted.

WATER VIOLET, ROCK WATER, GORSE and CHESTNUT BUD are Bach Flower remedies. Water violet, Rock water and Gorse are remedies for Traveler’s Delight.

Chestnut Bud was suggested for they were losing things and learning to correct their mistakes. Use WATER VIOLET and ROCK WATER when you deal with government officials.

SCLERANTHUS and IMPATIENS are Bach flower remedies. When you are impatient (IMPATIENS), the other person would react slowly (SCLERANTHUS) – pair of opposites.

WILLOW was prescribed for blaming and getting irritated with airport authorities.

REACH BAGGAGE HALF WAY DIVINE: half way will speed up things and it has to be done in a magic (Divine). HALF WAY DIVINE is a good combination for not getting stuck up in traffic.

Not able to get accommodation

Client: For the past three or four months we are trying to get the accommodation for type 5 quarters. We are currently staying in type 3 quarters (smaller house).

My husband is a government employee and we are due to type 5 quarters (it’s a bigger one) for several months.

Naran: You are not able to get that.

What are the feelings you are having?

What if you don’t get it?

Client: I am unhappy about it.

Naran: How you are maintaining that unhappy feeling?

You have been saying you are not getting the apartment that is due to your husband.

What is the thought that goes on in your mind?

Whom you are blaming for this situation?

You have to consider all of them.

What are you doing about the situation?

Client: We are trying for the same. But for several reasons like – the type 5 apartment is not available and the houses are given based on priority, and we are not getting the apartment yet.

Naran: What are the other thoughts you are getting?

Why you are not getting the accommodation?

Who is responsible for that?

What are the feelings you get – like for example, “It is not unfair that houses are given first to senior people”?

List all of them.

Whatever you thoughts and whatever you had said about the individuals concerned – the people who had to allocate the house for you, just list them out. Release each and every one of them.

What are advantages going to type 5?

What disadvantages staying in type 3?

Write them out. Why I want to move away from type 3 quarters? There has to be some reasons. List them out, one after another.

There is one problem over which you might be thinking about. We need to unearth those thoughts.

Now work on your “Likes and dislikes”.

Presently there is lack of space means that it’s a dislike isn’t it? Therefore, you don’t like the current house. Then how will you get a new house?

As long as you don’t like the present house, which means you are rejecting the present house, you will not get any new house.

It’s a rule, “Accept the present that you don’t want, to get the one you want”.

Therefore, you to need to accept whatever are available to you currently and you release all the dislikes that you have about your present house.

You are continuously cursing that the space in the current house is not enough.

What will happen if you continue to do complain?

Even if you move to bigger house, eventually you will be faced with lack of space. How?

Your husband will get more books and some of your relatives will move in. In the current house, her husband has completely filled one room with books.

Another rule: same reaction will get you a similar result, if not the same result.

Say “I release my desire to go to type 5 quarters”.

This is very important.

Unconsciously you have the resistance to go to type 5 quarters. Therefore, say, “I release my resistance to go to type 5 quarters”.

What is meant by resistance to type 5 quarters?

There is a desire to be in type 3 quarters. Unconsciously,   you want to be in type 3 quarters because there is some advantage staying there.

Client: The advantage staying in type 3 quarters is that we are staying in the ground floor.

Naran: You have a desire to be in ground floor. This desire stops you from moving to type 5. Release that desire to be in type 3 quarters.

For all (troublesome) situations we are the reason behind it.

Whether she gets type 5 quarters or not, that is a different issue. Clean the clutters of your mind.

If you have the feeling, “Let it come when it has to come” then only it will come to you.

Instead, till such time (until you get the type 5 quarters) a fight goes inside, spoils your mood and you feel tensed all the time.

In addition, always you are angry about concerned authorities and criticizing the government officials. Release each and everything.

In the morning (before you came for the class) you would have picked up a fight with your spouse. You can release that even now (thus past is healed).

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Addiction to drink


Treatment through Bach Flower remedies

No will power to discontinue drinking: ROCK WATER

Gives the reason for drinking by blaming his parents/ spouse: WILLOW

Says to get release from business worries, and other such problems:      AGRIMONY

Drinks if somebody offers a drink: CHICORY

Morning he promises he will give up drinking, evening he takes it: SCLERANTHUS

Can’t refuse to drink if somebody offers it: Centaury, WALNUT

To break from drinking habit – base remedy: WALNUT

Feels ashamed next day morning to face his people: ROCK WATER

Steals money to fund his drinking habit: CHESTNUT BUD

Feels guilty after he drinks: PINE

Abusive – physical and shouts at others after drinking: VINE, CHERRY PLUM

Note: One or more remedies have to be given based on the reasons cited above.

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Office Remedies Part I



Convincing about a useless product

I am asked to market a useless product. I don’t know how to convince the customers:

GENTIAN (for being discouraged) and WILLOW (for resentment)

Add LARCH to develop confidence in you to sell

To convince others – especially in selling, VERVAIN

Implement a process change

WALNUT, OAK (he goes in the same path, and so doesn’t look for alternatives) and HORNBEAM

Asking for leave

Asking for leave at the last moment, keep postponing it – because initially “my Boss will say no”

MIMULUS to face the boss

WALNUT for rapport with the boss

CENTAURY to speak your cause assertively

WILLOW: To avoid blaming the boss

No empowerment

My boss will put me in a critical situation giving an impression that why not I do the job myself.

If I do it independently though, she would get upset because I have done the job without consulting her.

WILLOW (blaming) and SCLERANTHUS (for fear of getting confusing instructions)

Getting shouted at

In front of everybody my boss shouts – “I didn’t make any mistake why should I be blamed.”

WILLOW (resentment) and add PINE (for being blamed) and LARCH (losing confidence) CRAB APPLE (what others will think about me)

Not satisfied with her own performance

Even though she has got a very good rating, she is not happy about the job she has done.

Pine for being not satisfied with one’s own work

Develop Creativity

Multimedia: ELM, CLEMATIS

Public Meeting

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Managing an incompetent person

I have to manage somebody who is not good. He is related to one of the directors.

WILLOW for resentment

BEECH for criticising

CENTAURY: because of inability to voice one’s opinion

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