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Create positives out of a situation


Let us see an example

“My husband is not good. He is irritating too”, says the wife.

She is blaming her husband here.

If she has to handle this situation, then what resource (quality) she needs to handle it?

Does she needs to be courageous, be more loving and caring, or be bold?

When there is a problem, you need to ask yourself, “What one resource will enrich me and will help me to handle this life situation”.

This way you are healing yourself. Instead, if some person is angry and you also get angry, then you are gone.

So what do we need here?

People would say she needs patience and tolerance.

What’s patience?

Patience is the quality or ability to withstand a situation without getting angry or upset.

If that’s the case, then the Bach Flower IMPATIENS is the remedy. Impatiens will create patience inside you.

You need tolerance also. BEECH is the remedy for it.

Beech and Impatiens go together in cultivating tolerance and patience.

Developing a Life Strategy

Quality of patience, without getting upset or angry about the other person, is waiting inside us, waiting for the right opportunity.

We all need it. If I have it, then I will be striking at the right moment. It’s a Life Strategy.

If we have this quality, we will have more consideration and caring for other people. To develop this strategy, take the flower remedy IMPATIENS.

If I cultivate patience and tolerance (Beech and Impatiens), then I will become more considerate.

Consideration means, there is more love and affection for other person. Then we will become accommodative.

To be more caring, after being considerate, HOLLY is the remedy.

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Audit your thoughts:

The Universal Lover:

Husband wants to marry again


I was married for 16 yrs and got 3 girls. Ours is a middle-class family. Mine was a love marriage

Initially, everything was very well. He took good care of me and family but for the past 6 yrs there’s a lot of change in his attitude and behavior.

He yelled at me and kids in front of everyone, treating us very badly.

Last month, he brought one lady home and told us that he’s going to marry her.

My girls and parents launched a police complaint and with the help of a police officer that marriage was stopped.

He did not want to divorce but want to lead a new life with that lady. I told him that I will not agree for that.

After this he stopped coming home and eating from home. He will come as and when he wished but will not eat anything.

He gives money for the home expenses. I want to lead a happy married life with him. I want him to be genuine and truthful to our family.

Recently, he started hatred towards me. Pls help me to change this and lead me a happy life.


Take the flower remedies CHICORY, HOLLY, and ASPEN.

Put each 5 pills in a glass of water and have small sips from that water, every one or two hours, from morning to evening.

In the night, take the flower remedies WHITE CHESTNUT and WALNUT before going to sleep, 5 pills each.



A CHICORY person turns easily into HOLLY. Husband is the shadow-self of wife and hence, and therefore, his remedies are given to her.

Every day, she has to lead her life with the constant fear of what will happen, for which ASPEN will help.

To come out of persistent, constant worry: WHITE CHESTNUT and WALNUT

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Feel Depressed Due to Menopause


I am going through menopause symptoms. I am aged 46.

I feel very depressed, sometimes too much angry, want to cry loudly on some old issues of family, feel lonely and think that life is useless.

Please help me.


Take MUSTARD and SCLERANTHUS when you are depressed.

When you are angry, take HOLLY and WILLOW.



Depression: MUSTARD

Mood swings: SCLERANTHUS

Too much anger:  HOLLY

Anger due to resentment: WILLOW

Transition to new phase of life: WALNUT

Sudden regression due to menopause: GENTIAN

Tired due to this new situation: HORNBEAM

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Affair with another man


My husband is having an affair with another man.

We live in same house but separate room since 7 yrs. He’s not interested in me.

We have two children. I want him to leave the house and go far from us as I’m only 33 yrs old and I want to start a fresh life.

Pls help me as I’m so lonely and feel rejected. Help me brother! I want a way out!!


  1. Chant “RUBY, HOLLY, VINE”.
  2. Write these names also in a notebook daily 51 times.


To break the relationship with the husband: (Gem) gives the needed courage to start life independently.

To heal the rejected feeling and to re-align with the energy of love, HOLY and VINE will help, because the new life is to start with love in the heart.

Viral Conjunctivitis Problem Resolved


I have viral conjunctivitis since Friday and it is very troublesome…Please suggest a remedy for me.




Thank you for the remedy, the problem with my eyes is resolved.


Both Holly and Crab Apple are Bach flower remedies, while CLEAR and POINT are switch words.

HOLLY: is prescribed when a part of the body becomes inflamed (red.) Here the eyes become red after Conjunctivitis.

CRAB APPLE: is prescribed as it acts as a cleanser – both physical and mental. It is the base remedy for any type of skin diseases for the same reason.

CLEAR: to clear of obstructions (in this case inflammation)

POINT: is the switch word for eyesight. Anything to do with the eye, it has to be included as part of switch word combination.

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Afraid my family members will hurt me


I am from a joint family. We are living under the same roof.

I had used my extended family’s assets and had failed in the business venture that I had undertaken. I had pledged our ancestral property – which belongs to my extended family.

Now, I am forced to sell it and as one could expect they are not happy and they curse me openly. I am afraid that while sleeping, one of them could hurt me gravely, out of intense anger on me.


Take the flower remedies MIMULUS and HOLLY.


Fear of getting hurt: Mimulus

Not trusting (family members): Holly

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Sometimes things seem to get worse before it gets better. But in getting worse the situation tests us and strengthens us in ways we cannot imagine or know.

All we need to learn is to sit still and watch our mind as the fluid situation morphs, and shifts.

We learn to see our fear, guilt, and our negative tendencies.

We learn to be watchful, not restful. We understand that growth, life, is characterized by changes.

Situations morph rapidly. We realize that there is really no beginning or end, it is our mind that creates the illusion.

We learned these from our own experience detailed below:

One man, thirty machines and endless working hours

Last year, we contacted Naran when my husband was going through lot of challenges at work. He had been in the new job for two years and doing very well.

Then, the supervisor began adding new machines to the lab. It was one man and 15 machines to begin with. It was manageable.

Each machine was specialized and the chemicals cost a lot of money. If experiments failed, it would be difficult to make up for the loss of valuable samples and the wastage of time and money. It was challenging to finish jobs that were lined up on all of the machines.

The lab ended up with 30 machines and one man. Working continuously made my husband tired and unable to think. And he began to work on weekends too. To make the situation worse, his supervisor began to shout at him. 

My husband was threatened that he will be fired

In May last year, the Director called my husband and threatened to remove him. No reasons were given and he was shouted at him for 30 minutes.

My husband was shaken and could not understand what had happened. Naran asked us to chant “I AM A BEING OF VIOLET FIRE. I AM PURITY OF GOD DESIRES.”

Naran also asked us to chant and write— “OM GAM GANAPATHAYE NAMAHA”.

We have continued to do it every day from then on. 

The director apologized

Within a week of this chanting, the Director came and apologized to my husband for his outburst. He told my husband that he hope that my husband would not quit because of the outburst.

We were surprised and grateful at the turn of events. We continued to write the Ganesh mantra and be relaxed.

Surprise became Shock

In June, my husband was called again and the Director said he would put him on probation for the job. This really disturbed my husband and he couldn’t sleep or eat.

Naran advised us to write (the Bach Flower Remedies) – “ELM, WATER VIOLET, HOLLY, VINE, HORNBEAM” in a piece of paper and keep it in my husband’s pocket and do the same in another paper and keep it under the pillow. And Naran asked me to chant (Bach Flower Remedies) “RED CHESTNUT, VINE”.

And to improve the working atmosphere, Naran advised my husband to chant the switch words, “LOVE, THANK, TOGETHER DIVINE”. My husband began to juggle these new responsibilities. His job was reduced to 75% time from 100%. However, he had to work for 100% of the time.

Now comes a big surprise

Six months later, we had a surprise when the administrators asked people to submit their job descriptions and responsibilities for comparing it with what people were getting paid for across the nation.  My husband’s position was also called for reclassification.  Naran asked us to chant:GENTIAN, LARCH, THANK, TOGETHER DIVINE ORDER COUNT NOW DONE”.

Back to square one – problems started again

On December 10th, we returned to the same critical situation when, my husband’s Director called him and made him sign a memorandum saying he would fix all machines within December 20th. My husband had been working with the companies for months and nothing had been resolved. The Director was aware of all this.  

Naran advised us to download a picture of MUSTARD (Bach flower) and PINK TOURMALINE (gem remedy) and paste both on the name of my husband. And also chant the switch words “TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”.

Everything went smoothly like a whistle

Thanks to these divine interventions, the deadline passed off smoothly without an incident.

But the biggest challenge was negotiating the annual review that was due at the end of the month.  The annual review would determine if he would stay or go. In the current economic market, it was very hard to land another job. Living in the US without citizenship meant that we had to show continuous employment status. We continued to chant TOGETHER CHANGE NOW and write the Ganapathi mantra daily.

Annual review came on the right time 

The annual review was postponed to January. It so happened that Divine took care of everything so beautifully. On Thursday, his immediate supervisor completed my husband’s annual review and gave him glowing references. They also discussed about my husband getting more help in the lab, and reinstating his job to 100% from 75% that he is currently on.

Three days later, the Director who was shouting at him all the time, said that there was no need for another review and he had nothing to add or change to the review already performed, and he agreed with everything. Everyone who knows the Director says this is nothing short of a miracle!

 The director accepted his failings openly

Last week, the Director called my husband privately and told him that his personality was that of a person who magnified the negative. From his interactions with my husband he is realizing that he had to appreciate everything positive and not pay so much importance to the negative.

My husband said he politely thanked him and left, but inside he was shouting ‘Together Divine’ in a deafening crescendo. He felt so happy that he didn’t have to say a word for this change to come over! The flowers, gems, the switch words are so beautiful and so powerful!

We successfully sailed through the stressful phase

We are grateful for the divine to have helped us through this difficult and stressful phase. The chants helped us stay focused and positive and not panic. We found time daily to chant ‘Together Divine’ and write ‘Om Gam Ganapathayae Namaha.’

 Lessons learned

We understand and are grateful that our future unfolds in small clear steps.

We have the opportunity to be watchful, present and steer the direction of our life.

Naran taught us patiently and gently to keep our mind open to the gifts that every situation brings in and not be carry our old patterns with us.

We are continuing to learn.


Thank you for sharing. What we need is trust in divinity. Yours has vindicated that. Best of luck!!!

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Love thy neighbours even if they are a nuisance


My neighbors are very inconsiderate. We live in apartments. The one on next to me filled the corridor with their own stuffs and smelly shoes, make a lot of noise shouting at one end of corridor to the other, openly criticizes us and do damage to our plant tearing the leaves (we only put one pot of plant and door mat at my door and nothing else not even shoes). We only keep quiet, to maintain peace.

The neighbor above us, throw litter into our house and make a lot of noises (such as jumping in wee hours of the night after 12 am), and also hang wet laundry above our laundry. On one case, we even saw a packet of urine caught on our window.

We really don’t know what to do.


Chant “BEECH HOLLY WILLOW IMPATIENS” over a glass of water and drink it.

Download a picture of PISCES and paste it on your flat door.

Do the forgiving exercise for them.

In the morning thank them mentally for not disturbing you.

Pray to The Mother for keeping these elementals away from you.


May I ask how many times do I need to chant the flower remedy each time? Do I have to chant everyday or just once?

Do I do the forgiving exercise and thank them everyday also?

The picture of Pisces can be just the symbols or need to have images of fish?

At the last sentence, you mentioned praying to the mother. ‘The Mother’ refers to?


When the problem comes, you can chant.

Chanting what is given is just an alignment with the divine. Forget your identity. Just merge with the Grace Words which are nothing but divine. Enjoy chanting. Do it any number of times.

These words do not bring about any result. They want you to surrender. Surrender to the divine and start chanting. While chanting do not think about anything.

Download zodiac picture of Pisces, and paste it on the door facing outside.

The mother means Aurobindo mother. That divine mother only knows how to drive out the unwanted elementals. Just say once to her daily.

LLM (after a month)

I can see improvement on the issues with my neighbor next door, no more torn leaves and cleaner corridor.

I am the victim! I am the villain!!

R Mohan

Five years back you told me that we invite people who mirror us. Specifically you said the people around me are in PINE state (low self-esteem, guilty), because I am in the same state.

Recently I observed, I create a scare in the people around me (MIMULUS). So I chanted MIMULUS and the opposite states (the opposite person who will create Mimulus) of it – HOLLY and VINE.

Immediately, I felt very happy. My question to you is, how did MIMULUS make me happy?


The positive aspect of Mimulus is sympathy. That’s why I suggested Mimulus. The Holly and Vine persons will kindle fear in others. By taking Mimulus, you turn the Holly, loving and sympathetic.

In the same way, when you chanted Mimulus, you become sympathetic to the different parts inside yourself namely, the part of HOLLY and the part of VINE. So, in turn you felt relieved and happy.

Several years back, I suggested you to take Mimulus when you were fearful to buy a property. The same fear is still inside you, which is normal.

Just take MIMULUS for the next few days, to be sympathetic, which comes from higher state of love that believes in co-existence.

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Life situations where Walnut is helpful


When I go to a person for request: (Bach Flower Remedies) BEECH and WALNUT

To make person easily approachable: WALNUT and WATER VIOLET

Uphill task: WALNUT and HORNBEAM

To begin: WALNUT is like ‘PILLAYAR SULI” (a symbol in Tamil that invokes the blessings of Lord Ganesha – the remover of obstacles)

To end: WALNUT because beginning is end of something else.

To begin communication, to re-establish communication and I don’t know how to start the communication: WALNUT

Sharing the ancestral property: WALNUT

When one withholds info, as in a therapy: AGRIMONY and WALNUT

Work is not challenging: WALNUT

Puberty: WALNUT

To come out of too much of TV watching and speaking on mobile phones, or any other form of addiction: WALNUT, SCLERANTHUS

WALNUT protects our boundaries

First marriage ended in a divorce, not to attract the same type of person in the second marriage: WALNUT

I feel rejected: CHICORY, WALNUT

I am easily offended (highly sensitive): CHICORY, HOLLY, and WALNUT

The antonym of attraction is Resistance – resistance means to fight against or refrain from temptation. To refrain from any temptation: WALNUT and CHERRY PLUM

When the child revolts and throw temper tantrums: CHICORY, HOLLY and WALNUT

When completion is not happening in any work, for example not completing the book you promised to write and it’s half-done: WALNUT, OAK and HORNBEAM

Defense against a verbal attack – WALNUT, PINE (when you are constantly criticized) – for example, due a strict father his son is afraid.

The antonym of attraction is Hindrance. Therefore, to give/get a helping hand: WALNUT (it works like Wolf animal spirit).

When there is Delay, Obstruction, and Resistance: WALNUT.

When somebody prevents (hinders) promotion: WILLOW and WALNUT (“if he wants, he can help but he didn’t or he spoiled it”)

All of us worried about Saturn (7.5 years itch): WALNUT

He is afraid he will fail in the exam (transition from one class to another), Interview or reapplying for a new passport: WALNUT

When others are unreasonable: WILLOW, WALNUT

When anybody is merciless: WALNUT

When a person is avoiding you: ROCK WATER, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT

Reconciling to the situation: WALNUT

For a caring, co-operative, friendly, generous, helpful, kind atmosphere: WALNUT

Any stiffness: WALNUT, ROCK WATER. When the atmosphere is tensed, when there is tension, WALNUT is the remedy.

Walnut is the remedy for relaxation. Antonyms for stiff are easy and relax. For relaxation – WALNUT

If you are uncomfortable to attend a VIP’s marriage: WALNUT, WATER VIOLET and LARCH (you will be treated well)

If anyone is possessive, selfish, greedy, demanding, stingy: CHICORY, WALNUT

To stop the bleeding: RESCUE REMEDY, WALNUT

Want to hurry up: IMPATIENS and WALNUT – then the program may not start on time

Children during teenage — not to be influenced by peers and friends – WALNUT protects the child

The child will cry, whenever parents criticize: RESCUE REMEDY and WALNUT (it will find balance and protect self).

Due to constant criticism a child will become HEATHER. To prevent that from happening in the future, Walnut is the remedy.

Walnut tree is big.  When the flower blooms its smell is so strong, insects and other flies will keep away. So it can protect the self.

Allergic to smell – (gem remedy) YELLOW SAPPHIRE and WALNUT

Give the remedies always separately.

In Nutshell

The goal of Walnut’s healing is to have constancy and stability in one’s life!!!

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