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Let us see an example
“My husband is not good. He is irritating too”, says the wife.
She is blaming her husband here.
If she has to handle this situation, then what resource (quality) she needs to handle it?
Does she needs to be courageous, be more loving and caring, or be bold?
When there is a problem, you need to ask yourself, “What one resource will enrich me and will help me to handle this life situation”.
This way you are healing yourself. Instead, if some person is angry and you also get angry, then you are gone.
So what do we need here?
People would say she needs patience and tolerance.
Patience is the quality or ability to withstand a situation without getting angry or upset.
If that’s the case, then the Bach Flower IMPATIENS is the remedy. Impatiens will create patience inside you.
You need tolerance also. BEECH is the remedy for it.
Beech and Impatiens go together in cultivating tolerance and patience.
Developing a Life Strategy
Quality of patience, without getting upset or angry about the other person, is waiting inside us, waiting for the right opportunity.
We all need it. If I have it, then I will be striking at the right moment. It’s a Life Strategy.
If we have this quality, we will have more consideration and caring for other people. To develop this strategy, take the flower remedy IMPATIENS.
If I cultivate patience and tolerance (Beech and Impatiens), then I will become more considerate.
Consideration means, there is more love and affection for other person. Then we will become accommodative.
To be more caring, after being considerate, HOLLY is the remedy.
Audit your thoughts:
The Universal Lover:
What is the Use of Listening to Stories CD and Doing EFT?
Inner meaning of stories can be learnt by the subconscious mind. It is called ‘Learning by Metaphors’.
- · When the conscious mind concentrates on story, subconscious mind will learn what it has to learn.
- · If you can tap (do EFT) while listening to the stories, then you will tap the resource of the characters in the stories.
There is a simple way of tapping using the six positions in the fingers including the Gamut point. They are important positions. Balancing will result.
How one can to listen to Stories CD?
- If the eyes are open, then the conscious mind will focus on something else, therefore, while listening to the story, close your eyes and listen
- Tapping is one of the best techniques to get the resources of other persons – we are not taking away the resources of them, as the resources are in a common pool
- Tap on yourself to activate those resources inside yourself (everybody has all the resources inside them)
- At the same time, listen to your breathing as well
- Release all thoughts that come to you by saying, “I let go these thoughts”
- Just relax
What these stories will do to you?
- There are many stories around that can heal us. You would have heard the story, how Rama’s name changed a thief into Valmiki, the greatest epic writer of all the times
- You have to listen to stories repeatedly, so that mind is conditioned
- Words and messages embedded in stories have direct access to subconscious
- Not only our mind, but also our thoughts get elevated too
- Our life will change too
- A new life and a new beginning situation will happen
- Within a week, you will feel the churning of mind
Why should we listen to stories?
An elephant does not know what a mantra is. Then it heard, “Om Namo Bhagavate” that originated from the universe.
It is a Soul’s Mantra. It means that soul is saying to Lord, “I do Namaskara for you”. Immediately, Gajendra had Motcham (liberation of soul from mundane life).
We keep trying so much. By hook or crook, we try to achieve. Only when we can’t go further, we surrender. That is what the elephant Gajendra did.
The soul will rise when it hears this Mantra as it is a Soul’s Mantra. However, we need to repeat it many times.
Therefore, when we listen to stories, we have a direct influence over the sub-conscious mind.
Never it’s late to Teach Moral Stories: https://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/06/04/never-its-late-to-teach-moral-stories/
Stories for Life Part 3: Rama and Zen Tea: https://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/05/19/stories-for-life-part-3-rama-and-zen-tea/
If someone is angry against you, the FIRE element is more inside you.
To pacify it, you have to react in a different way. If you activate WATER and EARTH elements, then you will become patient and relaxed.
The PRAN MUDRA – little and ring fingers touching the tip on both the hands, will activate your earth and water elements.
When such an unusual response is given – instead of reacting with other person angrily, you treat him in a peaceful manner, then the opposite person don’t have a choice but to react in a different way.
We can also reduce our Anger.
On the date of (our) conception, we don’t know the state of our parents.
Let us see how to make them (at that time) into light and love. Then we will also become light and love – I mean we will become good.
We don’t know when we got conceived. So we will take one year before our date of birth and put our parents into light and love.
Form a silver triangle in front of you
All the unaligned non-divine memory frequencies of my past-life, my conception, and my parents that were carried in my womb state are released and kept in the silver triangle.
Other general steps…
Reiki open the green triangles, open my womb state, fill it up with light and love, align and resonate it with grace and rays of wealth and prosperity.
My womb state is open, aligning, and resonating with grace of joy and happiness.
My womb state is open, aligning, and resonating with grace of purity and peace.
My womb state is open, aligning and resonating with the grace of detachment and righteousness
My womb state is open, aligning and resonating with the grace of divine love, gratitude and forgiveness.
My womb state is open, aligning and resonating with the grace of intelligence and creativity, removing the ignorance.
My womb state is open, integrated with physical, mental and spiritual energies of light and love.
My womb state is filled up the grace of purity, peace, divine love, gratitude and forgiveness.
Divine light and love fills up the whole my womb state making it whole and complete.
My womb state is whole and complete with the help of Reiki light and love.
You are re-born. Very good!!
Womb changes into child. Did you feel your own womb state?
Mother is the first person to recognize us.
Mother is the first person to give us love, the taste of first love.
Mother is the first person to approve us and we want approval only. The moment we are born mother approves us.
Sometimes the mother may have different thoughts – for example they would have preferred a boy but a girl was born. Such thoughts were made complete by the meditation we had done now.
How can we complete this further? (Additional steps)
From the state of birth, to the current age divided by three, whatever we had experienced put it in the triangle. Let us say you are 45, do the healing from your date of birth till 15 years.
Healing using Violet Flame
The above techniques can be applied using Violet Flame and you don’t need to know Reiki to do the same. To know how to use Violet Flame healing for our past, please attend workshop on Violet Flame Past-Life Healing.
I want to get the benefits out of the meditation. And at the same time my mind gets distracted.
Will there be any possibility? Or will there be any chance of getting the benefits of meditation, even though there are distractions?
Yes definitely there is a possibility.
All the CDs in the Bach Flower Study Centre are tuned in certain brainwaves.
Whenever a person goes into a deep meditation, or deep meditative level, the brain produces certain waves called Brainwaves.
When you are in deep meditation you go to Alpha, then Theta and then Delta. Normally our distractive mind is in Beta State.
When you listen to the Meditation CD with a headphone, whatever Alpha waves generated will be imposed on your brain.
When those waves are imposed, you will be forced to come out of Beta level and you will be in the silence mode.
In that way, you can silence the rebellious or the resisting mind. That is the only way by which you can do meditation.
The other way is really cumbersome for every time you have to be careful about the mind, because the mind is a great trickster.
You think that you will be able to manage it, for when you just say ‘release’, the thought goes off.
You feel happy then. But the happy state itself is another thought – whether it is happiness, sadness, calmness, worry, anger or love, all of them is a thought.
Every such thought has to be released.
Is forgiving the concerned person(s)…
My problem is my love relationship.
I am in a relationship for the past 3 years. From the beginning only we use to fight a lot but there is immense love and care also for each other.
But, few months ago he said that his family is not accepting our relationship due to inter-caste issues.
He is also fed up of my suspicious and fighting nature. In addition, he is not ready for commitment.
We tried to end up this relationship, yet still we are in talking terms.
Taking help from your blog, I started writing the affirmation, “TOGETHER I thank the divine for getting me <his name> as a life partner NOW DONE” for 21 times daily along with writing 58 for 58 times.
Also, I’m continuously chanting, “CONCEDE CLEAR CENTRE FIND DIVINE <his name> PARTNER HOLE”.
I have also kept the power symbol 47 and 66 with me.
But nothing is helping. Neither things are improving nor are they ending completely.
At times, I feel like its divine wish that we should stay together that’s why in spite of deciding to part our ways, somehow we are still in terms.
Pls help me out of this situation – either things should improve or end up completely by divine grace.
Do the forgiving exercise for him.
Love thy neighbours even if they are a nuisance: http://reachnaran.com/love-thy-neighbours-even-if-they-are-a-nuisance/
How to deal with negative energy: http://reachnaran.com/how-to-deal-with-negative-energy/
Patient: My wife loves me a lot. She is a very considerate person. At the same time, when it comes to my way of doing, she is highly intolerant. Surprisingly, she tolerates others’ mistakes to a greater extent – this includes my parent’s actions too.
One part of her is tolerant, while the other part of her is intolerant – especially to you. It shows, somehow you trigger the other – unwanted part in her.
Do you have a similar behavior in yourself?
Patient: Yeah! In general, I always tend to correct the way of others and not just one person. I believe everything has to be done correctly, with the right people, and at the right time.
I will teach you a simple method here.
Affirm as many times as possible:
“I RELEASE the PART of ME that is criticized by me”.
“I OPEN ALIGN WITH the PART of ME that evokes her tolerance to PRAISE me”.
You can write them too.
The letters in UPPER CASE is fixed. The rest of the statement, you can fill with whatever you want. This way, you are releasing the behavior you don’t want and activating the behavior you want in others.
My seven year old daughter has joined swimming class. She was nervous and scared.
I gave her MIMULUS and RESCUE REMEDY. I read in some reply, in which you had suggested these remedies for quite a similar issue.
I also gave Reiki to her, her coach, swimming pool, water. Also, I did prayer for other kids, who are scared or crying (to increase their confidence.
And my daughter was happy and enjoying in the pool today.
For being scared and nervous: Mimulus
To compliment Mimulus at all levels: Rescue Remedy
What you pray for others will come back to you. Sending Reiki to others is one way of sending prayers for other’s benefit.
Bullied by higher class students: http://praisedivinelife.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/bullied-by-higher-class-students/
Remove my fears please: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/04/02/remove-my-fears-please/
Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.
At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.
In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.
However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.
In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.
However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.
At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.
Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.
Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.
Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.
Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.
What is that we lack in any role?
Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?
The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.
BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.
What are the negative mental states of Beech?
- Unable to understand other man’s point of view
- Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
- Desire to control or change the other person
If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?
BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.
WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.
For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.
“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.
Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.
I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….
I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….
I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!
Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……
Raji: I am married for 8 years. I have a daughter who is 7yrs old. When I became pregnant, I got separated from my husband.
Naran: Are you still separated?
Raji: No. We are living together for the last one year.
Naran: What is your problem since you had been together?
Raji: My husband is an alcoholic. Once in 3 or 4 days, he gets drunk as well as daily consuming Pan Parag (a tobacco product).
Naran: Since how long he has been an alcoholic?
Raji: According to my in laws he started drinking from his graduation days.
Naran: Explain his behavior after he gets drunk?
Raji: He will get angry at me and my daughter; will shout.
Naran: What does he shout about?
Raji: He will say, “Nobody respects me. There is no respect for me even in my own house. My daughter does not respect me. My friends, my employees, and my parents don’t respect me either. I will teach all of them a lesson”.
After the outburst, he will start weeping.
To be respected is the key word for ROCK WATER.
He is weeping. By losing control of himself, he weeps. Therefore, add CHERRY PLUM.
Rock Water will ultimately turn into either CHESTNUT BUD or VINE.
Naran: How is his behavior when he is not under the influence of alcohol?
Raji: His behavior is quite normal only. He shows his love for his daughter. In fact he sincerely made efforts for our reunion.
(Naran questioned further about her husband’s profession)
Naran: What is he doing?
Raji: He is running a Screen Printing unit. But it is not doing well.
Naran: How does he manage to pay his workers and take care of the family then?
Raji: He is honest in paying out the dues. Somehow, he will manage to pay the workers first, and then gives me money once a week.
Honesty – ROCK WATER
When one tries to be honest, in spite of adverse circumstances, self-control is employed to the maximum in one area.
He is so self-controlled in the area of finance that he loses self-control in some other area. Thus when he drinks, he loses his control and starts weeping.
Naran: Suppose if he can’t pay his dues, then how does he manage?
Raji: Naran, one more thing, I have forgotten to tell you. Every month before paying the rent, he would abscond.
Raji: He cannot pay the house rent by first of every month. Therefore, he feels ashamed to meet the house owner. So he would not stay in the house during the first week of the month.
Instead, he would stay with his parents for 4 or 5 days, arrange for the money, and will return back home after paying the rent. He has been doing this for a long time. Though, he would never cheat anybody.
Honest and at the same time an escapist. This is the case of a ROCK WATER person turning into CHESTNUT BUD character. On the due date, he would abscond (Chestnut Bud).
Key Words for Rock Water
To be respected: Ego and pride; self control, honesty.
Self controlled, honest person expects self respect. As a principle, he would never cheat.
Here the husband doesn’t get respect. His ego is hurt when he is insulted. He loses his control when he drinks.
One more interesting point is Rock Water father will face a Cherry Plum daughter.
ROCK WATER, CHERRY PLUM, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT (to break the habit)
Put the combination in the common drinking water, so that everybody will get the healing effect.
Feedback after 15 days
Raji: From the second day onwards, he stopped Pan Parag, and after a week he has stopped drinking.