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Make one talk

Bhuvana

I feel my husband is not transparent with me sometimes. Yes, he hides so many things from me.

However, he is not going in any wrong way. Still it’s painful for me. If I go ahead and talk to him about this, we end up in fight and the day is so painful.

Naran

Chant “AGRIMONY, CHESTNUT BUD” over a glass of water and drink it daily.

Explanation

The negative Agrimony person will not reveal his feelings. He will be hiding, what he does. When questioned, he will say “nothing” to avoid being exposed.

Avoidance is the negative aspect of Chestnut Bud.

To know the truth from the person, both are given. Then the person will open up.

Thus, AGRIMONY and CHESTNUT BUD will help them to open up and share their inner turmoil.

This combination is good for patients who go for a psychotherapy session. Without any difficulty they will share their feelings.

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Do you know why honesty meets dishonesty: https://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2013/10/22/do-you-know-why-honesty-meets-dishonesty/

Harmony with neighbor: http://reachnaran.com/harmony-with-neighbor/

Not ready to go for a divorce

Anita

I am really tired of waiting to get initiation/news, words from my husband as he is not at all in contact with me or my family for last 2 months. We all tried very much but failed.

I am doing forgiving exercise for husband and my MIL more than 25 days now, but still no result or reply from his end.

Everybody in my family is asking me to take decision and to divorce him and start new life. But I am really not ready to do so.

Sometimes, I wonder why this person marries me, if he really doesn’t have any regards or interest in family life.

Naran

Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, PINE, WALNUT” for a month

Explanation

See events from different angle: BEECH

Stop blaming anybody for what happened: WILLOW

Come out of the thought of “One’s bad karma”: PINE

Roles People Play

Reddy

Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.

At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.

In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.

However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.

In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.

However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.

At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.

Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.

Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.

Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.

Naran

Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.

What is that we lack in any role?

Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?

The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.

BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.

What are the negative mental states of Beech?

  • Unable to understand other man’s point of view
  • Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
  • Intolerance
  • Fault-finding
  • Desire to control or change the other person

If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?

BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.

WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.

For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.

“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.

Rushrush

Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.

I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….

I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….

I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!

Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……

Exam results are great

Client

I am chanting for my son Ambika Mantra and I used the circle technique for him, for the exam.

Exam results are great, with good score, 7 A’s for all the subjects.

I did the same for my daughter. Her score is average, as I can see she didn’t prepare with 100%. She feel restless and laziness. She always complains lazy to go to school.

What should I do for her to do better for the Midterm exam, which will be tougher?

Naran

Write “398” and keep it under her pillow.

Related Posts

Difficult to understand questions: http://studyforsuccess.wordpress.com/2013/10/08/difficult-to-understand-questions/

Get the questions you studied: http://reachnaran.com/get-the-questions-you-studied/

Ambika mantra helps students to perform better: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/03/16/ambika-mantra-helps-students-to-perform-better/

Waiting for a Call

Naran

When you are waiting for a call from a person, you can be in the Movement Mudra and you can chant, “BETWEEN DIVINE”.

The switch words BETWEEN subconsciously connects you to that person.

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Disharmony in Family and Marriage: http://marriagemantri.wordpress.com/2013/03/25/disharmony-in-family-and-marriage/

Establishing harmony with a person: http://reachnaran.com/establishing-harmony-with-a-person/

Communication with girlfriend: http://reachnaran.com/communication-with-girlfriend/

Stop! Craving for food!!

Naran

Give the Bach Flower Remedy CHICORY, as greediness is expressed through food. Add it with ROCK WATER and CHERRY PLUM.

WALNUT should be taken separately.

Explanation

Rock Water is prescribed for thinking, “I want to be strict with myself. I want to be self-disciplined”.

Cherry plum is for temptation and Chicory to come out of self-gratification (compensatory behavior).

Cherry Plum is added as they will feel, “I want to control my craving”.

Rock Water and Cherry plum go together, because if somebody says, “I want to control”, then they will lose their control”. 

Walnut is given to form a habit of eating properly.

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Addiction to drink: http://reachnaran.com/addiction-to-drink/

Chicory

The Bach Flower Remedy Chicory

Key words

Possessiveness, Self-Love, Self-Pity, Always Demanding, Noticeable, Attracting Attention

Indications

  • They try to attract others attention: for example, infants attract attention by crying when you leave them alone or we try to impress others sometimes by flattery.
  • Will be overeager to help.
  • They get angry, if they find no gratitude from the person benefited by them.
  • Their possessive nature can make the opposite person as a Centaury. Please note here, fear of rejection indicates a Centaury, while the person who instils a fear of rejection on others is Chicory.
  • Chicory will not give anything free – there is a hidden agenda behind every transaction he makes.
  • A Chicory person always attracts the attention of others.
  • Always demanding and expects a great deal from others.
  • He is possessive, extremely interfering, secretly manipulating and easily hurt.
  • He has a feeling of unwanted.
  • Over protection and too much parenting.
  • Constantly concerned with the affairs of the family, always interfering.
  • Behind all Chicory type, there lies a deep lack of fulfilment, often a feeling of not being loved.
  • Desires for company for his selfish ends.
  • He is a stingy person.
  • Easily offended or hurt – self-pity.
  • Pretending illness to attract others pity.
  • Always speaks about what others owe her.
  • Extremely nagging – the in-laws remedy.
  • Thinks, feels that everyone is there for his help.
  • Goes to the extent of weeping or pretending to be ill to get his things done.
  • There is constant fear of loss.
  • Emotional demanding always.
  • Behind the Chicory state, an internal emptiness is more.
  • Watching over the needs, wishes and progress of family and friends.
  • Always ready to comment, to correct others or to advise others.
  • The emotional control is subtle, making others dependent.
  • He will manipulate to impose his will.
  • The Chicory finds it hard to let go, feels easily offended or hurt; becomes ill to gain sympathy, always expecting others to live in the feeling of gratitude to her.
  • Chicory children throw temper tantrums.
  • The Chicory child will weep and get things done.
  • If weeping doesn’t pay, he will indulge in flattery or helps you in house hold work.
  • Always demanding, tries to seek attention.
  • The Chicory baby always wants her to be held in the lap all the time.
  • The Chicory child likes to be carried always.
  • Would weep if said anything.
  • Over care and over concern for hurt feelings.
  • Always seeks company.
  • Heart Chakra is closed for Chicory people.  Pray to Chicory to be active in the Heart Chakra.

Chicory says

  • Threatening: “I will do homework, but I will not go to the music class.  If you agree for my condition, then I will finish up all my homework now”.
  • “I am angry at his ingratitude, and he cheated me. I have done so much to him” – Chicory + Chestnut bud.
  • Chicory person makes others feel guilty by saying, “You have just used me.”
  • “After all that I have done for you, this is how you treat me”.
  • “I have given her a sari on her birthday and all that I get from her on my birth day is a card.”
  • Emotional black mailing – “How can I live without you?”
  • “Think of what I have done for you” and then bursting in to tears.
  • “My dear son, I miss you so much, the house is vacant.”
  • He sometimes become ill, he may resort to black mail. “I will study after this, if you allow me to browse the Internet.”
  • “People should respect me.”

Ailments

  • Eating disorders
  • Hysterical Neurosis  – convulsion type
  • Histrionic personality disorder

Usage

  • “Live and let live” is the positive Chicory.
  • Chicory + Walnut – when the child starts schooling
  • Chicory + Walnut – for a second wife
  • Chicory + Star of Bethlehem – if a person whom you love is dead
  • Chicory – for separation.
  • Chicory: I want love and attention
  • Chicory: I feel that nobody recognises my importance
  • Chicory: I have a fear of loneliness
  • Chicory: I feel I am neglected
  • Chicory: I feel unloved by my loved ones
  • Chicory: Others say that I am of a highly interfering type
  • Chicory: I can’t be alone; I always need company
  • Chicory: I often enjoy giving my opinions and advice to others; but I feel hurt/offended when they reject my advice
  • Mimulus, Chicory: My child stays close to my side; rarely goes alone; does nothing alone
  • Chicory: Cries a lot when starting for the school
  • Chicory, Mimulus: The child becomes upset even if mildly criticized
  • Mimulus, Chicory: Burst into tears for no apparent reason
  • Chicory: The child clings to mother

Getting Successful

MRS. GEETHARANGA

Wherever I go, I chant “LALITHAM LAMBODARAM”.

I am getting successful.

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Find Why I am successful: http://reachnaran.com/find-why-i-am-successful/

Be Flexible – Mark of a Successful Person: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2011/12/29/be-flexible-mark-of-a-successful-person/

Lalitham Lambodaram: http://reachnaran.com/lalitham-lambodaram/

Program Your Life Part II

Read the first part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/program-your-life-part-i/

Be with your feelings

Naran

Focus on the feeling, with Adi Mudra.

Say, “Yes, there is … (mention the feeling here, for example, a feeling of sadness)”

“I welcome this … (feeling)”. But, can I let go this feeling?

If you get the answer “yes”, then just say, “I let go of this … (feeling)”

Is the feeling is still there? Ask the mind, “Can I let go just 10% of the feeling?” If the answer is yes, then proceed further and let go another 10%.

Still you are unable to come out of stagnation.

Now, observe your thoughts.

Can I release this thought?

If the answer is yes then say, “I release … (thought)”

If the answer is “no”, then ask another question, “Is this thought useful to me?”

“No.” means you need to let go of the thoughts. Release all the thoughts one by one.

Find out which desire is behind the emotions.

Is it the desire to control or change the person or event, or the desire for approval or the desire to feel more secure? Ask the mind again.

If there is desire to control or change ask, “Can I release the desire to control?”

Yes means, “I accept my desire to control but I let go this desire to control”.

Is there any desire for approval? (Desiring for praise, recognition)

If yes means, “I just release this desire for approval.”

Is there any desire to feel more secure? or is there is any fear?

If yes means, “I release this desire to feel more secure; or i release my lack of trust ”

After some time, there will not be any feeling or thought. Peace dawns. Now take the required action. 

Read the final part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/exercises-for-program-your-life/

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