Posts tagged hurt

Release the Enemy Within

9 years ago
by admin in

R Mohan

Whenever I find any overwhelming emotions in the form of anger or hurt, I find saying the switch words, “TOGETHER BOW CONCEDE ADJUST FORGIVE PRAISE THANKS” very useful.

If I simply look at the feeling and say those words, the emotions simply vanish away.

Naran

Look at the emotions and say, “I release that part of my mind that is angry. I activate that part of mind that forgives”.

Another example is, “I release that part of me that vomits. I activate that part of mind that stops vomiting”.

You can also do this with whomever you are having problems.

For example, “I release the part which is resisting being harmonious with. I activate the part that brings in harmony, peace and love with so and so”.

This way you can do for any aspect of life. The reason it works is, we have several parts operating– each part taking us in a different direction.

The moment we become aware of it, the healing happens faster.

R Mohan

After employing the technique for a while, one thing I notice however is a sense of fear.

Naran

When one skin (emotion) is peeled off, another skin (another emotion) appears. Affirm, “I align the fearing mind with my fearless consciousness”.

Post-Script (R Mohan)

While I was getting help from Naran (for my anger), during the same time, I provided the same suggestions to M (for her hurt): http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2013/07/28/entwined-in-love/#comment-2057

Naran says that we come across people with the same problems as we are facing then.

So, we should not worry whether we are providing right solutions to them or not as our solutions apply to them as well.

Don’t worry if there is no help

9 years ago
by admin in

Sudarsan got himself hurt inside his bathroom. He couldn’t move in anyway. Luckily, he was carrying his mobile with him.

He sent a SMS to Naran, who suggested him to chant “WILD ROSE, WOLF”.

His mobile charge got over. However, he couldn’t get up and charge it, which means he can’t call anybody for help.

So, desperately he chanted the switch words suggested by Naran.

Meanwhile, his uncle and aunty who lived in the same city was wondering why their nephew hasn’t turned up for having breakfast. Usually, he will stay with them during the weekend.

So they drove to his house, found him in dire straits and took him to hospital.

Explanation

A situation develops which is undesirable but inevitable. In this situation, one resigns to the situation, submits oneself passively, without knowing what to do.

Here Sudarsan couldn’t do anything about his lack of movement. So, the Bach Flower Remedy WILD ROSE was suggested.

For getting help the animal spirit guide WOLF was sought.

Related Posts

How Bach Flower Remedies are prescribed: https://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2013/03/01/how-bach-flower-remedies-are-prescribed/

Be a Smarty: https://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2012/11/29/be-a-smarty/

Roles People Play

9 years ago
by admin in

Reddy

Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.

At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.

In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.

However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.

In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.

However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.

At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.

Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.

Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.

Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.

Naran

Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.

What is that we lack in any role?

Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?

The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.

BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.

What are the negative mental states of Beech?

  • Unable to understand other man’s point of view
  • Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
  • Intolerance
  • Fault-finding
  • Desire to control or change the other person

If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?

BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.

WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.

For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.

“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.

Rushrush

Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.

I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….

I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….

I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!

Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……

My husband stopped drinking

9 years ago
by admin in

Discussion

Raji: I am married for 8 years. I have a daughter who is 7yrs old. When I became pregnant, I got separated from my husband.

Naran: Are you still separated?

Raji: No. We are living together for the last one year.

Naran: What is your problem since you had been together?

Raji: My husband is an alcoholic. Once in 3 or 4 days, he gets drunk as well as daily consuming Pan Parag (a tobacco product).

Naran: Since how long he has been an alcoholic?

Raji: According to my in laws he started drinking from his graduation days.

Naran: Explain his behavior after he gets drunk?

Raji: He will get angry at me and my daughter; will shout.

Naran: What does he shout about?

Raji:  He will say, “Nobody respects me. There is no respect for me even in my own house. My daughter does not respect me. My friends, my employees, and my parents don’t respect me either. I will teach all of them a lesson”.  

After the outburst, he will start weeping.

Naran’s Analysis

To be respected is the key word for ROCK WATER.

He is weeping. By losing control of himself, he weeps. Therefore, add CHERRY PLUM.

Rock Water will ultimately turn into either CHESTNUT BUD or VINE.

Discussion (cont…)

Naran: How is his behavior when he is not under the influence of alcohol?

Raji: His behavior is quite normal only. He shows his love for his daughter. In fact he sincerely made efforts for our reunion.

(Naran questioned further about her husband’s profession)

Naran: What is he doing?

Raji: He is running a Screen Printing unit. But it is not doing well.

Naran: How does he manage to pay his workers and take care of the family then?

Raji: He is honest in paying out the dues. Somehow, he will manage to pay the workers first, and then gives me money once a week.

Naran’s Analysis

Honesty – ROCK WATER

When one tries to be honest, in spite of adverse circumstances, self-control is employed to the maximum in one area.

He is so self-controlled in the area of finance that he loses self-control in some other area. Thus when he drinks, he loses his control and starts weeping.

Discussion (cont…)

Naran: Suppose if he can’t pay his dues, then how does he manage?

Raji: Naran, one more thing, I have forgotten to tell you. Every month before paying the rent, he would abscond.

Naran: Why?

Raji: He cannot pay the house rent by first of every month. Therefore, he feels ashamed to meet the house owner. So he would not stay in the house during the first week of the month.

Instead, he would stay with his parents for 4 or 5 days, arrange for the money, and will return back home after paying the rent. He has been doing this for a long time. Though, he would never cheat anybody.

Naran’s Analysis

 Honest and at the same time an escapist. This is the case of a ROCK WATER person turning into CHESTNUT BUD character. On the due date, he would abscond (Chestnut Bud).

Key Words for Rock Water

To be respected:  Ego and pride; self control, honesty.

Self controlled, honest person expects self respect. As a principle, he would never cheat.

Here the husband doesn’t get respect. His ego is hurt when he is insulted. He loses his control when he drinks.

One more interesting point is Rock Water father will face a Cherry Plum daughter.

Prescription  

ROCK WATER, CHERRY PLUM, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT (to break the habit)

Put the combination in the common drinking water, so that everybody will get the healing effect.

Feedback after 15 days

Raji: From the second day onwards, he stopped Pan Parag, and after a week he has stopped drinking.

Free from Emotional Trauma

9 years ago
by admin in

Guapa

I recently broke up with my boyfriend. And, I have been feeling hurt terribly. I would like us to come back together.

Casually, I came across your website, have tried some of the mantras and even the forgiveness exercise.

I still wake up with a heavy feeling and with a lot of emotional pain. Please guide me in this difficult period.

Naran

  1. Chant “IGNATIA, CHICORY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM”
  2. While going to bed, be in the SAFETY MUDRA posture (Thumb touching the tips of little and ring fingers on both the hands).

You will be free from emotional trauma.

Explanation

For grief and hurt feelings because of broken love: (gem) IGNATIA

Come out of love pangs: CHICORY

Come out of shock and to recoup: STAR OF BETHLEHEM

The Safety Mudra otherwise called as Safe and Secure/Pran Mudra will keep you in peace.

Related Posts

47-Broken-Relationship: http://reachnaran.com/tag/broken-relationship/

Unfulfilled Genes: http://healyourpastlife.wordpress.com/2013/04/03/unfulfilled-genes/

Break from the past: http://reachnaran.com/break-from-the-past/

Afraid my family members will hurt me

9 years ago
by admin in

Sankar

I am from a joint family. We are living under the same roof.

I had used my extended family’s assets and had failed in the business venture that I had undertaken. I had pledged our ancestral property – which belongs to my extended family.

Now, I am forced to sell it and as one could expect they are not happy and they curse me openly. I am afraid that while sleeping, one of them could hurt me gravely, out of intense anger on me.

Naran

Take the flower remedies MIMULUS and HOLLY.

Explanation

Fear of getting hurt: Mimulus

Not trusting (family members): Holly

Related Posts

I want to die before you: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/iwanttodieforyou/

Holly: http://theflowerangels.wordpress.com/2013/09/05/the-universal-lover/

Pat yourself in a big way: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/05/24/pat-yourself-in-a-big-way/

Chicory

9 years ago
by admin in

The Bach Flower Remedy Chicory

Key words

Possessiveness, Self-Love, Self-Pity, Always Demanding, Noticeable, Attracting Attention

Indications

  • They try to attract others attention: for example, infants attract attention by crying when you leave them alone or we try to impress others sometimes by flattery.
  • Will be overeager to help.
  • They get angry, if they find no gratitude from the person benefited by them.
  • Their possessive nature can make the opposite person as a Centaury. Please note here, fear of rejection indicates a Centaury, while the person who instils a fear of rejection on others is Chicory.
  • Chicory will not give anything free – there is a hidden agenda behind every transaction he makes.
  • A Chicory person always attracts the attention of others.
  • Always demanding and expects a great deal from others.
  • He is possessive, extremely interfering, secretly manipulating and easily hurt.
  • He has a feeling of unwanted.
  • Over protection and too much parenting.
  • Constantly concerned with the affairs of the family, always interfering.
  • Behind all Chicory type, there lies a deep lack of fulfilment, often a feeling of not being loved.
  • Desires for company for his selfish ends.
  • He is a stingy person.
  • Easily offended or hurt – self-pity.
  • Pretending illness to attract others pity.
  • Always speaks about what others owe her.
  • Extremely nagging – the in-laws remedy.
  • Thinks, feels that everyone is there for his help.
  • Goes to the extent of weeping or pretending to be ill to get his things done.
  • There is constant fear of loss.
  • Emotional demanding always.
  • Behind the Chicory state, an internal emptiness is more.
  • Watching over the needs, wishes and progress of family and friends.
  • Always ready to comment, to correct others or to advise others.
  • The emotional control is subtle, making others dependent.
  • He will manipulate to impose his will.
  • The Chicory finds it hard to let go, feels easily offended or hurt; becomes ill to gain sympathy, always expecting others to live in the feeling of gratitude to her.
  • Chicory children throw temper tantrums.
  • The Chicory child will weep and get things done.
  • If weeping doesn’t pay, he will indulge in flattery or helps you in house hold work.
  • Always demanding, tries to seek attention.
  • The Chicory baby always wants her to be held in the lap all the time.
  • The Chicory child likes to be carried always.
  • Would weep if said anything.
  • Over care and over concern for hurt feelings.
  • Always seeks company.
  • Heart Chakra is closed for Chicory people.  Pray to Chicory to be active in the Heart Chakra.

Chicory says

  • Threatening: “I will do homework, but I will not go to the music class.  If you agree for my condition, then I will finish up all my homework now”.
  • “I am angry at his ingratitude, and he cheated me. I have done so much to him” – Chicory + Chestnut bud.
  • Chicory person makes others feel guilty by saying, “You have just used me.”
  • “After all that I have done for you, this is how you treat me”.
  • “I have given her a sari on her birthday and all that I get from her on my birth day is a card.”
  • Emotional black mailing – “How can I live without you?”
  • “Think of what I have done for you” and then bursting in to tears.
  • “My dear son, I miss you so much, the house is vacant.”
  • He sometimes become ill, he may resort to black mail. “I will study after this, if you allow me to browse the Internet.”
  • “People should respect me.”

Ailments

  • Eating disorders
  • Hysterical Neurosis  – convulsion type
  • Histrionic personality disorder

Usage

  • “Live and let live” is the positive Chicory.
  • Chicory + Walnut – when the child starts schooling
  • Chicory + Walnut – for a second wife
  • Chicory + Star of Bethlehem – if a person whom you love is dead
  • Chicory – for separation.
  • Chicory: I want love and attention
  • Chicory: I feel that nobody recognises my importance
  • Chicory: I have a fear of loneliness
  • Chicory: I feel I am neglected
  • Chicory: I feel unloved by my loved ones
  • Chicory: Others say that I am of a highly interfering type
  • Chicory: I can’t be alone; I always need company
  • Chicory: I often enjoy giving my opinions and advice to others; but I feel hurt/offended when they reject my advice
  • Mimulus, Chicory: My child stays close to my side; rarely goes alone; does nothing alone
  • Chicory: Cries a lot when starting for the school
  • Chicory, Mimulus: The child becomes upset even if mildly criticized
  • Mimulus, Chicory: Burst into tears for no apparent reason
  • Chicory: The child clings to mother

Treat your husband like a friend

9 years ago
by admin in

Client

No matter what I do, I am not able to tolerate my husband at all. I don’t know what to do.

Naran

You are able to treat your friends or for that matter your siblings and parents, well irrespective of their failings isn’t it?

Release the expectations on role of a husband as well as feelings you have about your husband.

Affirm, “I accept and treat him as a friend instead of a husband”.

You will be able to tolerate him better 

Related Posts

Why my husband felt hurt: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/10/02/why-my-husband-felt-hurt/

Forgiving mind: http://divineshakthi.wordpress.com/2013/12/24/forgiving-mind/

The Accused: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/09/19/the-accused/

Degraded her Designation

9 years ago
by admin in

Naran

Girija is a personal assistant to a general manager. Suddenly she was asked to become a telephone operator.

Her ego was hurt. She thought they have degraded her designation.

The Bach Flower Remedy Willow would have been ideal for her here. However, she chanted “LALITHAM BASKARAM”.

After that, they didn’t ask her to do the telephone operator job.

Related Posts

Mantra for clarity: http://praisedivinelife.wordpress.com/2013/11/03/mantra-for-clarity/

Peace brings a job: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/03/28/peace-brings-a-job/

Mantras Discussed on 4th Sept 2010: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/09/13/mantras-discussed-on-4th-sep-2010/

Want to be loved and respected

9 years ago
by admin in

Karinapach

I have separated from my husband but we are now friends with benefits now and it hurt me. What can I do? Shall I go on?

He says we can have a good relationship in the future but I am not sure. I think I am making things easier for him. I don’t know how to proceed. I admire him a lot!

Naran

What do you want?

Karinapach I want to be loved and respected

Naran

Give love and love and respect all

From ‘I Love Myself’ Workbook

I am Loved                                         

  • What will I do today towards (gaining) this aspect of my life?

I am Worthy of Love

  • Think about your positive qualities that you have used so far.
  • How will you use them today?

In addition, check the link, to know how to gain respect: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/i-deserve-respect/

Go to Top