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How to love parents who are cruel

9 years ago
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Grace

My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?

Naran

The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?

While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.

We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.

By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.

In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.

You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?

See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.

When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.

Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.

Grace

Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.

I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).

Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.

Naran

Don’t drag them into your life now.

Unite all the parts.

Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.

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There are no accidents only incidents

10 years ago
by admin in

Balu

I had an accident five years back. It was not a major accident. These days whenever I drive on the road, I am afraid that I might meet with an accident again.

Naran

Release all your current fears about accidents.

Release all your emotions attached with your accident that happened in the past.

Was there are any advantages of having that accident?  It might sound cruel, but we do invite those accidents as there are some benefits attached to that accident.

Balu

No, that was my first accident and your last question was interesting. I did take off from work for two months and I really did enjoy it, as I was not happy with the management then.

Naran

Ok, maybe you didn’t have an accident. Any incident happened that gave you the same advantages of taking leave or avoiding a situation you didn’t like.

If nothing comes to the memory, go back 12 years from now. Check whether you had any major incidents in your life that made you take a long leave. If there are none, then go back 18 years or 30 years before your accident.

Balu

I remember now. I was doing my graduation in Physics. I had problems with HOD (again issues with the management). While playing Hockey, I slipped and broke my left-hand. Interestingly, I took after a leave of two months then.

Naran

Put the emotions of your college incident in the triangle. Did any of your parents have met with an accident? Put all of them in the memory.

Balu

Yes, my father had a couple of accidents after his retirement. I have to check out with him whether he had an accident when he was studying college and when he was working.

The funny thing was, in both the cases, I had resentment about the treatment of management and the accident helped to avoid going to the places I hate.

Naran

Heal all the memory of your sicknesses that helped you avoid going to work/school/college.

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